Lies are usually identified as such the moment they are dropped from one’s lips to another’s ears. The problem that it begets is guarded listening; figuring out what is truth and what is a lie. The proverb says it is like “a sword”. In fact it is described as “the thrust of a sword”, and that is not just a lie, but even words uttered “rashly”.
Every now and again we run into a person who justifies their rashness by saying such things as: “People do not have to wonder where I am coming from, I tell it like it is.” In reality, it simply means that I see no necessity of speaking in a balanced and loving manner. I have lost control of that ability! I have little or no respect to the listener, or to the one I refer to in the matter.
Why do we neglect to apply restraint when conversing with or about another? Speaking the truth is a major challenge! I know for a fact and understand completely how my parents worked in a most determined manner to be certain that their family applied restraint and respect in conversation with others. I did not learn of its importance as quickly as I should, but I learned, and things improved dramatically.
The author of Proverbs, Solomon, said after that portion of Scripture, “But the tongue brings healing; truthful lips will be established forever, but a lying tongue only for a moment. Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, but counselors of peace have joy. No harm befalls the righteous, but the wicked are filled with trouble.”
“Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who deal faithfully are His delight. Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word makes it glad.”
The what and how of a man’s conversation should never become likened to “the thrusts of a sword”! (Proverbs 12)