While reading I came across the 13th verse of Proverbs 19. I thought to myself: “Ted! You were a most fortunate individual. In fact you rate amongst the few in history that can make that claim!”
I would have a hard time to recall that Patsy ever displayed being “contentious”. She was the epitome of graciousness, and manifested it, not only in public, but in her very private life. I must quote the verse: “A foolish son is destruction to his father, and the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping.”
Inasmuch as I had been having trouble with a faucet that was hard to shut off or on, when it started to do a constant dripping, I knew I had to do something about it. I proceeded to pull it apart and put new washers and “O” rings in it. I also made sure that ample grease was in it. Guess what? It worked!
When a marriage has deteriorated, it could possibly be that part of the problem relates to contentiousness on the part of the woman, it might also be the “hang-ups” of a man. Both parties need to stand back and see what would be needed to correct the problem or problems. The “mirror” of God’s Word would illuminate, probably reveal some contentiousness of which you were unawares.
Far too many individuals are quick to quote parts of Ephesians 5. Read all of it, because it also says: “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.” To quote part of it, and not all of it, creates a reason for contention. Both parties need humbling!!!
No need for drip, drip, drip! If either (probably both) is creating the problem, get it fixed immediately! Do not give up the ship!