From the inherited old nature, people love to “get even”. There is somewhat of a conflict in the brain, but it is a seeping urge that keeps saying “I would and will be justified if I reciprocate”.
Once a person embraces Christ as Savior and Lord of their life, the work of the Spirit of God becomes evident to them. They “sense” that such action is foreign to a Christian and the more they study the Scriptures they discover they cannot retain thinking that justifies their feelings of antagonism.
Ultimately they are faced with forgiving and moving on. Peter in his First Epistle deals with husband and wives and their inter relationships. The wife took good care of herself and family. There was no fear within the family and confidence in each other was evident.
The husband has very clear instructions: “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead.”
It certainly needs to be emphasized that because anyone, within or without the family, relative or friend, should be-little us, it does not justify our “get even” idea. We are to be “Giving a Blessing instead”.
Rise above the circumstances! Do it God’s way! Reciprocate with nothing less than LOVE.